In the moment when I truly understand my
enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I
also love him. —Ender, Ender’s Game
I
remember when I was a kid when there’s a friend who wasn’t willing to share
something with me, my parents told me to share something for him/her instead.
Why doing good to people who treated us bad? For a five-year-old girl, it
didn’t make any sense. And maybe, it even doesn’t make any sense for some of
the adults.
But
Bible told us to love our enemies. To pay attention to them and treat them
well. Hard? Of course it is. Like I said earlier, it even doesn’t make any
sense for some people. But impossible? No.
As I
grow up, instead of getting mad at people whose act I can’t stand, I try to
think the reason they did such things. I usually wonder, what kind of family
he/she grows up in. What kind of childhood did he/she have been through? What
kind of life that she/he has to bear? Is there any kind of wound his/her heart
suffers? It’s difficult at the beginning, but as I getting used to it, it helps
me to love them. Sometimes when you get to know the answers for those
questions, you’ll be surprised. Because most of the time, the people you
hate—the people you dislike, are the people who need to be heard. They are
people who—surprisingly, need to be loved the most.
You’ll
realize that those traits you don’t like from your enemies, most of the times
are the results from their childhood experiences. Isn’t this kind of thing
occurs to all people, including us? Who we are today are made from what we
experienced in the past. And that makes all of us equal. Equally to be loved.
Next
time you feel too difficult to love your enemy, try to understand them. It
helps.
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